Technical difficulties

Well people, as you probably see, here at The Infection we’ve been struggling to keep up with our promises to produce the content for Feburary.

Alas, all of us here at The Infection have come into a very busy period and are unable to continue at our current pace until further notice. We strive to produce quality material for you, the people, and by having ourselves distracted we are unable to deliver material worthy of being a part of The Infection. We have decided it is best to temporarily shut down our operations due to this and will be back to finish and continue the special for Feburary into a portion of March.

The Infection will return to full activity as of March 17th, 2009. We thank you all for your continued patronage and hope to come back more Infectious than ever!

Be enriched, enlightened and entertained while we’re gone!

Open versus Closed relationships

Well people, the title says it all. Today we’re gonna be talking about open and closed relationships, their advantages and disadvantages. We’ll only be lightly touching the subject here and it’s up to you to pursue further reading.  Now before I get into the main subject, we need to get a clear definition of what open and closed relationships are for all the people out there who dont completely understand the concept.

An open relationship is a relationship (often between two people) in which the participants are free to have sexual intercourse with other partners. If the couple making this agreement are married, it is an open marriage.

In contrast, a closed relationship is the exact opposite. This is where there are only two participants who agree to complete sexual exclusivity. This is the most common form of relationship.

To begin, open relationships are great for people who want complete sexual freedom while remaining committed to someone. In an open relationship both partners are permitted to go out and have intercourse with whoever they wish without consequences. Although there can be many gray areas in the negotiation of the terms of an open relationship. Some people don’t permit ‘love‘ outside of the main relationship, so you can go out and have sex with anyone you want but it can’t move anywhere beyond that- just sex. This is where we run into problems. Love in an open relationship is usually defined as swinging. Swinging can be a problem for some open couples as both partners may not be comfortable with ‘sharing’. A very large and common issue here is also the emotional implications of being in an open relationship.  Many argue that an open relationship lacks intimacy and the security needed to carry on a real relationship. There are also the health risks to be considered when engaging in an open relationship. The increased risk of the transmission of STD’s as well as the risk of pregnancy are very high.

In a closed relationship we don’t have half as many of the risks associated with an open relationship. To begin, we have the reduced health risk of being with one partner. We also have the lack of gray area’s that open relationships present. On the downside, some people do feel trapped in a closed relationship because they lack the freedom of experimenting with other partners whereas  in an open relationship they have the freedom to do so. Some people in closed relationships permit intimacy outside of the relationship but not sexual activity. Intimacy being defined as kissing and hugging etc. Most people in closed relationships don’t permit intimacy outside of the relationship due to fear of it leading into an open relationship.

In between both the open and the closed relationship we have popular relationships called ‘casual relationships‘. I am currently involved in a casual relationship right now. Most people would know it as having a ‘fuck buddy’ or ‘friends with benefits’. This type of relationship is probably perfect for people who don’t want the commitment involved in a closed relationship with all the benefits of a open relationship. The problem with this type of relationship is that it can tend to lean either way. It can move into a closed relationship if both parties feel the need to retain exclusivity among partners or it can move into an open one if they wish to pursue others. When in this type of relationship there is also the emotional risk of having one partner develop deeper feelings for the other. The problem there is quite obvious and that risk exists in the open relationship as well.

Open and casual relationships are usually more popular among younger people. Usually within the high school and college age. As people get older they find the need to settle down with someone. This is usually due to wanting to get married and raise a family etc. Young people involved in open and casual relationships usually do so because they feel the need to experiment and explore their sexuality actively.

All in all, each of these types of relationships have their givings and misgivings and it’s up to you to decide which is right for you. For some farther reading please refer to the links provided below. Entertain me with your thoughts.

http://dating.suite101.com/article.cfm/friends_with_benefits

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/11/03/friends-with-benefits/

http://www.directnaturalgame.com/LTRs/managing-open-relationships.html

http://nymag.com/lifestyle/sex/annual/2005/15063/

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monogamy

Flirting for Dummies part.2- Lionel Heart Edition

Nate and Poison covered a lot of things, so instead of having you folks read it again I just cut out what would have been repeated. I finally stopped being lazy, writing this was tiring and got this done, so you mangy mutts read and pay attention, I went out on a limb this time. Here we are for Flirting for Dummies Part II: Lionel Heart Edition

In Part I, I covered attire and presentation, this week I will move on to part two, the final part: The approach, the conversation, the closer

I will break this down into multiple scenarios like I did with attire:

1. Identifying possible targets.

2. Approach: i) you are approaching your ‘target’ and a) they have already identified you or b) they are not looking in your direction so they have no idea you are coming. ii) You are being approached a) you see they are coming towards you or b) you don’t know they are coming.

3. The conversation

4. The closer: how to finish except we are going beyond the conversation this is “The conversation is over, so what’s next?”

We start by identifying possible targets. First look at the people they are with, see a lot of couples in the group; that means you can scratch this one off the list. Next look for any rings, if you are looking for some action or even something more serious, find a way to identify that they are possibly single; you do not want to look like an idiot in public. Follow up with a look over and ask yourself “Are you sure?” Finally

So we follow up with Approach. I) a) You are approaching your target and they see you approaching from afar, start by making eye contact, make them know your intentions, that way they have time to prep themselves. Give a smile or something, don’t give off the wrong vibe, the way you approach when they see you is your second impression, your first impression is the way you are dressed. The only real tip I can give here is posture. Gents: stand up right, broaden those shoulders, but look relaxed this is your foot in the door, don’t let it get slammed on your foot. Ladies: look relaxed, do not show any uncertainty, that’s about as good advice as I can give you. If your approach is relaxed then you can cut any possible awkward tension. (In this situation you have the most control out of any of the four possibilities, so use this to your advantage if you are naturally an ‘aggressor’.)

b) So they are not looking at you and have no idea you are approaching. Take a breath, relax and approach slowly, don’t scare the shit out of the person. You give a gentle tap on the shoulder and you make your introduction.

ii) a) You see them approaching, make eye contact, let them know you know they are coming. Let them come to your and start things, although you made eye contact and received a conformation, they took the initiative to come over so let them show you their game, you can play a lot from that. I live and die by this saying and it’s true in sports “Offense sells tickets, Defence wins championships”. Personally I like to get an idea as to what I am dealing with so I play defence.

b) Final possibility, someone approaches you and you had no idea that they were coming, don’t freak out and start trippin’ balls (unless that is what you do, cause you are screwed either way). Relax is the best advice I can give here, pretty much the steps from the previous situation continue on here. See what their game is and work off of that. (In this situation you have the least control out of any of the four possibilities, if you don’t like being in this situation you will have to grind it out until the conversation really gets going.)

Alright, so you made your approach or they approached you and they haven’t sent you away yet or they haven’t left. Gents: NO PICK UP LINES. Those are burners, they do more damage than good, if you want them to go away, use it. I personally don’t suggest pick up lines, usually they bring the wrong message to the table. Find a neutral topic to start your conversation, i.e. what the person is drinking, the music, the decoration, how the place looks. You want an icebreaker go with some humour/sarcasm, it lightens the mood and opens up the conversation spectrum i.e. if the place uses fake wood talk about it, anything to get the person to smile, smirk or laugh. Follow it up with your name, how you present your name in this conversation could determine whether or not the person remembers you. I personally like to do something catchy that matches your personality, for example “My name is Lionel Heart. Think lions”. I know it sounds shitty, but hey you have to find what works for you. From there it’s all you; take the conversation where you want it to go. DO NOT I repeat do not get personal right off the bat, it could give the wrong vibe with that conversation.

Finally your closer. This is by far the hardest part of the process because what you say and how you say it can have many meanings, and depending on your objective depends on how you go about it. In any situation asking for their number is the easiest thing to do, cause it can say I’m interested, I think I’m interested, want to be friends and many other things; This is your foot in the door to bigger better things. One of the most important things about your closer, you must be honest and straight forward, make your intentions clear. From person to person how you go about your closer varies, again your objective is key, if you want to go steady a number is all you need. If you want to get some action tonight then you better be forward and stake your claim because there is no soft way going about that one.

All in all, you guys will probably be fine as long as you use your god damn common sense. If you fail while following this advice then its either because you are ugly or stupid and we can’t help you there. As we’ve claimed before, we’re not liable for any damage done to you or others while using our advice. It’s worked for us and if it doesn’t work for you then dont come crying to us. Good bye and good luck.

Flirting for Dummies part 2- The Approach, the conversation and the closer…with Poison

Welcome one and all to the second session of our lecture on the art of ‘woo’. For those of you who missed last week’s lesson please refer to Flirting for Dummies part 1 for the previous lesson. Last week we covered the importance of the attire as well as appearance. Earlier this week professor >N@T3< introduced the class to part 2 while giving a short recap on some points we missed in part 1 like the importance of smell and the importance of timing which I, Poison, will be going over with you in class today.

To begin, you have the approach. There are many ways to approach someone and try to spark up conversation but first you must evaluate the situation. Remember that there is a time and place for everything and please use your common sense in deciding if approaching this person at said time is the right time or place. Here is my advice in deciding if it is the right time or place for ‘the approach’.

Are they alone or are they in a group? This is utterly important to remember. My advice is to wait until they are alone or away from their group. This rule applies to both sexes. If you’re shot down then it’s the best way to preserve your pride because there isn’t an audience. In some cases it can make you look ‘brave’ to approach someone while they’re in a group but it’s not guaranteed. Your best bet is to approach them while they’re alone. If you are with a group and you can convince them to follow you on your ‘approach’ then you may stand a chance of getting somewhere with this person. This is only due to the fact that your group can distract the other group long enough for you to approach your prospect target. Once again this approach is not a guaranteed pass and your best bets are to wait until they are alone. Also, if you see they look smitten with someone at the moment then please don’t be a cock and approach them still.

Do they look like they’re in a good mood? There are some people in this world who do not know how to take a hint and read facial expressions. I will admit I’ve been guilty of purposefully approaching someone who looks like they are in a bad mood but that’s only because I like trouble. If you like trouble then you can do as I do and jump into the rings of fire otherwise…read the person’s facial expression. Is their brow creased? Do they look constipated or worried? Are they sweating yet it isn’t hot? Take a minute or so before you approach the person to evaluate their mood. Sometimes we can be completely wrong about what mood they may be in but it’s better to be safe than sorry.

Evaluate the setting. What environment are you in at the time? Take a look around you. This is a good way to decide what you want to talk about when you approach this person. If you’re in a book store then you look at what section they’re in. For example. I see a cute girl in the eastern philosophy section of Chapters, I casually walk over and then somehow spark up conversation about Taoism or something like that…By evaluation of your environment you also find out if it’s even a good idea to talk to this person at all. A few wrong settings to hit on someone are at work, hospitals, and strip clubs and in the middle of a test or exam. You could hit on someone in any given setting but if you fail to get the results you want, then you know why.

What are they doing? If they look busy then don’t approach them, you are more likely to annoy them and get blown off. If you see someone you like and they happen to be doing homework, talking on the phone, working at work and or some activity that denotes that they are busy- please don’t approach. Not only do you look rude but it’s annoying to have some random jackass approach you while you’re busy. One thing I’ve seen many a man do, I’m speaking specifically to males here, is approach a girl while she’s at work. I personally have never done this since I know that they’re there to do business and I respect anyone who is working and wish to allow them to do their job without interruption for something as trivial as me hitting on them. It’s the people who are inconsiderate enough to hit on someone while they are working that really annoy me. If you must hit on someone in any of the above outlined situations then please feel free to do so but please don’t hit on someone while they are working. This includes waitresses and waiters at restaurants…it’s tempting but please resist, it’s just an issue of courtesy.

Next, you have the actual approach into conversation. Once you have evaluated the situation and made the decision to talk to this person you may make an approach. Remember, you can’t take too long to evaluate the situation because people have lives and time is a factor. Give your clothes a quick dust off, pull out that pack of minty fresh gum that >N@T3< told you about and start chewing a piece then you walk over. Now most people make this sound simple and it is but since you are listening to me I’ll break it down like rocket science for you.

The Walk- you’ve got your good clothes on, you’re chewing that minty gum and your breath smells good so now you need to walk over to the person. Make sure that your walk is natural, don’t fake it. Make sure that your walk is calm and composed. Although you may feel nervous, don’t, it’ll show in your walk. Remember, the only way to know true success is through failure and you’re bound to fail sometime so just accept it before you walk over and you’ll be fine. Stand up straight, good posture helps to improve your figure as well as making you look confident. Note that while standing up straight you don’t want to look stiff and unnatural so be sure to loosen yourself up a bit before walking over.

You’ve completed ‘The Walk’ now it’s time for ‘The Intro’. The intro or the introduction is extremely important. First impressions count for everything so make this count. Before you say anything, please make sure that your voice is as clear and audible as possible. If you slur your speech then please don’t, if you speak using lots of dirty slang then don’t, if you have a really quiet voice then raise the volume a little bit and if you’re loud then lower the volume. What you say is also important; actually it’s probably the most important thing. You can use a pick up line but those are cheesy unless you’re aiming to be funny. You can also comment on how they look. This is a very common approach but note that it should be done tastefully. Females can say just about anything and they can break the ice with a male. Things ranging from ‘I think you’re sexy, what’s your name? ‘To ‘Hi, what’s your name?’ will 8 out of ten times get a positive result for a female. For the males…we walk on thin ice. My personal advice is to stick with a simple ‘Hi’ and your name will usually do followed by a compliment. It’s a good idea to talk about how good she looks and how her good looks made you notice her which is why you had to at least come along and say hello. Tell her that you had to tell her how good she looks just in case someone else hadn’t done it before. Yes…I’ve just given away my stock intro and now it’ll probably never work again but comments around those lines usually deliver good results. After your intro, you ask for a name if things go well and you proceed into ‘the talk’. Remember; be prepared to leave if things don’t work out. During ‘The walk’ you have to mentally prepare yourself to be shot down. It happens, move on.

‘The talk’- now after the intro and ice breaker we have the talk stage. This is where you get to know the person. Questions like “where are you from? “”What do you do for work or school?” and “what brings you here?” are the questions that come up in this stage of operations. >N@T3< mentioned this in his last lesson but I must emphasize this- DO NOT HIT ON THE PERSON. Keep subject matter neutral and if possible keep the conversation short. Even if you have nothing to do, you don’t want to keep their time and it always looks good if you seem purposeful. Another tip is to create an excuse to leave the conversation soon, making you seem very busy but so intrigued by this person is another indirect form of compliment. It’s like saying ‘I’m really busy but you’re so amazing that I have to stop and talk to you’. Please note that if you really are busy then it’s not a good idea to even begin the approach, you want at least 15 minutes of free time open to you. Now ‘The Talk’ should usually last a few minutes and right before you leave ‘in a rush’ you should either leave them your number or ask for theirs. There are advantages to either leaving your number or taking the number. The advantage to leaving your number is that you find out if they’re really interested in you. If they are interested then they will call you and you don’t waste time in trying to talk to them when they’re not interested. The advantage in taking a number is that you now know that this person is remotely interested in you but they now hold the upper hand in this dangerous game since you are expected to call and talk to them. Personally, I find it easier to leave my number since I’m not much of a conversationalist and if someone is calling you then you expect them to do the talking. Otherwise, taking the number leaves the ball in your playing court and how you play I cannot help you. My only advice for phone conversations is to leave it in the neutral zone until the person moves it into the non neutral zone. Conversations in the neutral zone are usually about what they do during the day, hobbies and other common interests you share. You’re leaving the neutral zone when you begin to have conversations about sex, religion, politics and other fairly controversial or personal issues.

Finally, we have ‘The closer’. This is where we complete the whole deal. You approached the person, you talked to them and now you’re good friends. After however long, you feel like you want to make this person special… make them into a boyfriend or girlfriend. I’ve seen cases where this can happen in as short as three days after two people meet each other and lasts for years. In other cases it can take weeks, months and even years before they reach this stage. At this stage is where you want to ask the person you’ve been flirting with to go out with you. In all honesty, as a teacher I must admit I’ve never reached this stage myself since I’ve always been looking for a one night stand. Otherwise, I’ve seen other people reach it so I will share their experiences with this class.

There is a deadline on this stage- most of us have heard of the infamous ‘friend zone’. You can get placed into this area when you wait too long to complete ‘The closer’. The problem with initiation of ‘The closer’ is that it can be hard to know if it is the right time to initiate it. You must pick your timing carefully. If you move in with ‘the closer’ too soon then you run the risk of making things awkward and running your whole operation into a wall. I’ve seen people completely drift apart when someone initiated ‘the closer’ too soon. If you move in too late with ‘the closer’ then you risk emotional damage to your pride in finding out that you have been ‘friend zoned’. There is a chance of rising out of the ‘friend zone’ but It takes lots of time to get out of that area and most people tend to give up when they reach that point. The other problem with ‘the closer’ is that you are rarely ever completely sure of when to initiate it.

Don’t assume or you make an ass of you and me- There are some ‘special’ people in this world who assume that ‘the closer’ was completed a long time ago and that they are going out with this person. Do not assume a damn thing! You make sure that both parties are in agreement to the terms outlined in ‘the closer’.

Do this in person- The closer is not something to do on MSN or over the phone. Yes, it can and has been done but that’s so impersonal. If you’re going to perform something like that then make sure you do it by talking to them IN PERSON. Find a good day, time and place for this and be sure to come alone. This is something you have to do on your own, it’s ok to have friends nearby but not visible for a bit of support but know that you have to fly solo. Also, you have to do it yourself; you can’t send friends to do it for you. If you’re not brave enough to approach this person with ‘The closer’ then the time isn’t right and if you never get the courage to do it then you can hope that this person approaches you instead.

Stay straight and true- There are no fancy lines, no guaranteed ways of success in ‘the closer’ you’ve just gotta be confident and speak the truth. How you really feel. You can get creative with it and find interesting ways to make the person more likely to say yes to you but there are no guarantees. Just use your common sense and remember that you managed to get this far on your own with one person so even if you get refused, you can do it again with someone else even easier this time.

Congratulations you have now graduated from The Infected School of love class of 2009! You have been taught all the basics in finding someone to love and the faculty here hopes that you are successful in your endeavours. Remember that our methods are no guarantee of success but they are only a guide for you to be able to come to your own methods of success. Live long and prosper!

The Great porn debate- Poison’s Argument

Here at The Infection we value the exchange of Ideas. In living up to this ideal >N@T3< and myself, Poison, have entered the debating arena. The subject- ‘Can pornography be justified as respectable?’ While my colleague argues that it can in no way be justified as respectable, I say that it can be. I say that pornography is nothing more than another art form and it can be justified as respectable due to the fact that as an art it is no more different than any other form of art that has existed in the past 2000 years. In the fine arts we have seen complete nudity and sexuality as well as the pushing of the moral limits of society. This is the same for pornography, yet we deem fine art as respectable although it contains the same subject material as many works of porn.

To begin, in both pornography and the fine arts we have seen the existence of complete, full and frontal nudity. Now some may argue that there is a difference between nudity in pornography and in fine art. One of the differences being that in fine art the nudity is tasteful and well composed. My question is this, who decides what is tasteful or not? What can be considered tasteful is only a matter of opinion. Tasteful as defined by dictionary.com is …

1.

having or showing or conforming to good taste [ant: tasteless]

2.

free from what is tawdry or unbecoming; “a neat style”; “a neat set of rules”; “she hated to have her neat plans upset” [syn: neat]

If we define what is tasteful by this definition then that would mean that a large amount of fine art featuring the nude figure is to be considered tasteless due to the fact that all of the models are in an unbecoming or compromising position. With the changing ideas of what good taste is, who is to really decide that pornography is tasteless? As values change so does taste. There was once a time where women wearing jeans was considered tasteless but now it is not only the norm but it’s fashionable. The only real difference between nudity in pornography and nudity in fine art is that porn is on film while fine art leaves the acts of porn to the imagination.

Next, we have the issue of pushing limits. There have been many works of art that have pushed the limits of society’s values. Some examples include the 1989 work ‘Piss Christ’ by Andres Serrano which features a photo of a small plastic crucifix submerged in the artists’ urine or blood. Another example of controversial work is the 1996 work, ‘Yo Mama’s last Supper’ by Renee Cox which features a nude self portrait of her as Jesus surrounded by 12 men in a spoof of Leonardo DaVinci’s ‘Last Supper’. Both of these works have gained notable controversy over their merits as ‘art’ but they have been considered art although one of them uses human waste material and dips a holy figure in it while the other features a naked black woman in the place of a holy figure. Now I argue this, both of these works have been argued against for their merits but they have been defended on the argument of ‘freedom of expression’. Through freedom of expression we can argue that pornographic videos like the infamous ‘two girls, one cup’ video can be considered art. This video, although disgusting to the majority of the population is an expression of some people’s interest in human fecal matter as an erotic device. There are many animals that use scat as a tool in the mating ritual so why are we, humans, not allowed to use scat as a device for our mating rituals? Other more mainstream porn videos that I will not cite can also be argued as art because of freedom of expression and the performers in this can be called artists because they produce art. Although this form of art is not championed by mainstream media, neither was abstract expressionism when it first was introduced to the world but over time people came to appreciate it.

Finally, we have sexuality in fine art versus sexuality in pornography. This is where the real issue lies. In pornographic material they display acts of adultery, rape, incest and all the other horrors of the imagination but why are people complaining about that in porn when it’s easily found in other mainstream material that people treasure as works of art? Works like The Rape of the Sabine women by Rubens displays a horrific scene of women being raped in the streets yet it’s considered a great piece of art. The third installment of the Godfather movie series, although not the best of movies by this writer’s opinion, has another example of mainstream incest. Another example of incest is in The Lion King 2, note that Simba’s daughter ends up getting hitched with his first cousin and nobody ever bothers to point this out. Although some circles can dismiss their marriage as non-incest due to them being lion royalty, marriage between blood relatives of any sort qualifies here. Many television daytime soap opera’s as well as classical plays like Romeo and Juliet promote the same values as pornography yet those actors are considered respectable. There has been an adult version of the play Romeo and Juliet produced yet many people would not consider it art due to the pornographic aspect. Why? Is it simply because they happen to be having sex for many people to see? Sex is a natural act, if discovery channel can film other animals mating then why should pornography be considered disrespectable? Pornography is nothing more than animals having sex. The target of disrespect is not the act of having sex but the values promoted but this is just an act. Other actors who do the same thing, act, are respected as well as their art form so what wrong has pornography done? It has promoted no more ill morals or values than the average soap opera or the drama in some cases; the only real difference is that there is no real attempt to hide the immorality in pornography.

In conclusion, pornography is a respectable trade because it is art. Although not championed by mainstream media it does have its merits to be considered art. Now, this does not mean that pornography is suitable for everyone to be exposed to but this doesn’t mean that it’s not respectable. For something to be respectable is one thing but what people need to remember is that everything has it’s time and place. The only reasons why porn can be considered art is because the nude figure which is exposed in pornography has been exposed in art for hundreds of years prior to the rise of video. The pushing of limits has been a natural part of art since the beginning as well as the presence of sexuality. In total, porn is respectable because it is art no matter how you want to look at it.


The Great Porn Debate- >N@T3<‘s Argument

Yo whats good everyone this is your boy >N@T3< and for those of you that don’t know earlier this week I challenged Poison to prove him wrong. The topic is porn yes that’s right let me say it out loud and proud just in case your still trying to grasp that…PORN! Now everyone (you can lie to yourself if you want) has seen porn at least once, then there’s others of us out there that can have a porn star name for each letter of the alphabet. But regardless of your experiences can it really be considered respectable? Now I want you to really stop and think and for the guys I want you to think with your head that has eyes not the other one (no homo)

Now let me just say I have my share of favorite starts but does that mean that I really respect them as an individual. For of all lets look at it this way, the girls that are in this business are making a shit load of money and yes everyone can respect money BUT, you need to do some background information.

Most of these girls never make it past high school meaning, if they didn’t look the way they did [NOTE: most of it being plastic] then these girls would be out on the street working at a Mc Donald’s or getting pimped.

Also I need to say would you really respect a girl that really has no respect for her self? If you need to take 5 dicks up your ass and put it on the internet to whore yourself for money then really how self respecting are you? I know for fact that for me to consider a woman anything more than a whore she has to have respect for herself, and if a person can’t respect themselves why should other people.

Remember back in high school and sometimes even as early as junior high you had that one hot girl that had sex with one guy and everyone labeled her a slut? Lets put one of these porn stars in a real life society. (In a office setting) you have lets say Lacey Duvalle suck off every guy in the company including the boss. Now if that was to happen know for fact that even the guys that got sucked off would be calling her a slut. Now can you really consider porn respectable?

Now I’m about to get biblical here yea that’s right I’m going there. The bible says commandment number 7 to be specific ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ For those of you that don’t know adultery is defined as having sexual relations with someone other than one’s husband or wife. Now I know for fact everyone has broken this rule (if you haven’t that sucks for you :P) but to do it on constant basis, video tape it and then distribute it for money is just plain wrong and earns no form of respect in my book.

Another thing lets take a look into the future if that was your daughter that you took your time, effort and money to raise and she turned out to be a whore that is one of the ultimate forms of disrespect. Really weight in those odds and think what is if I had a kid that did that you know you wouldn’t look at them the same way. You would still love them but not respect the decision that they made I can almost guarantee that.

Now as a part of this debate we were each aloud to use one video clip with very limited sexuality to try and prove are point right. This is my clip of porn star Lacey Duvalle. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z-D98gDQaJY

Now just from listening to her talk I don’t respect her. Not to mention the title within the video alone. I honestly would love to have someone try and bring this girl home to mom. I know my mom would have preached the whole bible and spoken in tongues to me just after 5 minutes of listening this girl talk about what she does for a career.

Well the choice is all yours can you really respect porn, porn stars and anything related I know I personally can’t.

>N@T3<

Top Ten Love Songs pt.3- >N@T3<‘s picks

Well now, we have a late entry in this competition for the title of greatest romance playlist but >N@T3< has yet to say his say.  Thus far we’ve seen the smooth and sophisticated sound of Lionel, we’ve tasted the sweet sexual sound of Poison and now we get to hear from The Infection’s love doctor himself about his picks.

So here it is, >N@T3<‘s picks for the top ten love songs of all time!

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1. All my life | K-Ci and Jo Jo

This song is just nice. You hear it at weddings, proms and everywhere else that tries to set the mood with a slow song. It pretty much delivers the message to your woman with out saying anything and if you can sing it then damn you know your getting some that night

2. When I see you smile | Boys ii Men

Here’s another classic from a truly great group of individual’s. Boy’s ii Men put this song on the charts, it slow, its sweet and its just nice man.

3. My girl | The Temptations

Damn now this is just vintage. I wasn’t even born yet, the year was 1965 and The Temptations just brought fire with this song. In a time of segregation this was truly a song that could bring couples of all colors together to unite in one room. Truly a classic.

4. Can you stand the rain? | Boys ii Men

Another great song from Boys ii Men. This is for those starter couples. This song makes you feel confident that you can rely on your partner no matter what.

5. Promise | Jagged Edge

“Nothing is promised to me and you, so why would we let this thing go?” Do I really have to even write why this song is great Jagged Edge was one of the top 10 R&B groups for sure and this song just proves my point.

6. Lets get married | Jagged Edge

Once again this is another song that tore up the charts they even had a remix with Run DMC that killed it. This song here just sets the mood. You know when your about to get your freak on this is on of those songs that need to get played.

7. Moving mountains | Usher

Although it’s not even that old I can almost guarantee that this will be on Usher’s greatest hits album. This is what you listen to right after a hard breakup it says everything your feeling right after something like that. Not really a love song but it does deal with issues love brings.

8. Your all I need | Method Man feat Mary J Bilge

This takes me back as a kid, I remember listening to this on the radio when it was just me my, bro and my mom. This song doesn’t need to be a R&B song for it to be good.

9. Turn your lights down low | Bob Marley feat Lauren Hill

“I want to give you some love, I want to give you some good good lovin’.” I don’t need to say anything here except INSTANT CLASSIC R.I.P. Bob Marley

10. Nice and Slow | Usher

This is a good song, no doubt one of Usher’s best. This is another one of those songs that you can play while getting your freak on or just setting the mood. This is definitely within my top 100 songs.

And those are >N@T3<‘s picks for his top ten love songs of all time. Make sure you entertain us with your thoughts!

Flirting for dummies pt.2- >N@T3< says…

Hey there everyone at The Infection its >N@T3< now before I get in to this topic I would like to say that this will be my last article regarding relationships for while due to personal reasons. As of now I will be writing other articles may it be on music, political issues or just general debates.

Now lets get started. Flirting is one of the easiest ting to learn but if you have no clue what your doing things can easily turn ugly for you in a spilt second. Firstly there are some writing rules with regards to flirting let me list them in order

Number one- Do not and I repeat DO NOT ever go straight into flirting that can easily make you look desperate and have the person feel uncomfortable. Away talk with the person you plan to flirt with for at least 5-30 minutes. Get to know them there likes dislike and all that other good stuff before you decide to spit some game at them.

Number two. Your attire is highly important. If you just came from the gym, work that’s not corporate or anything that has you sweat, stink or otherwise looks unattractive do not pursue to flirt. First impressions with anyone are key to how they look at you as a person. Make sure that you look decent for the occasion.

Number three – always have a pack of gum with you if you plan to flirt if you don’t have one run your ass to the store to buy one. I can a sure you that nobody wants to smell that angus burger and poutine on your breath especially if your tryin to spit some game. Make sue it’s a pack of mint gum also when I say gum im not talking about that kiddie stuff I recommend excel or dentine as they last long and can help quickly.

Now if you have all of those things in check then your good to go. Try to avoid cheesy lines because there really not cute so don’t waste your time. If you’ve meet the person you would like to flirt with before and they now a little about you then be normal and act your self. Since I like to make jokes and if I wanted to start to flirt with a girl my entering line would be “you must be a parking ticket because you have fine written all over you.” the reason I can get away with that is because as long as I smile and laugh I can easily play it off if the person knows that I like to crack jokes.

There’s also cyber flirting such as msn and text messaging this is a lot easier to do because it requires less confidence since you don’t see the person and in this case you can ignore rule 2 and 3. If this is more suitable for you as long as you remember rule one and not to make cheesy pick up lines you should be in the clear.

That’s pretty much all that is required in my opinion as long as your confident smart and follow those rules you should be able to just about conquer anything

>N@T3<

Technical difficulties

The Infection would like to apologize for our lateness this week in production of the article ‘Flirting for dummies part 2’ and will have this ready by the end of the week. Otherwise, we will have all other planned material for week 3 of our Romance and love special ready on time.

Also, we would like to announce some new surprise material.

This week, The Infection will be hosting a debate between two of it’s members. Poison Apple will be facing off against >N@T3< in a debate. The subject: Pornography, can it really be considered a respectable business?

Poison argues that it can be considered a respectable business and aims to prove this in the debate.

Meanwhile, >N@T3< argues against this and believes  that no matter what pornography cannot be considered respectable.

So please stay tuned to The Infection for more updates.